Individuals often engage the services of private investigators to ascertain the possibility of infidelity within their marital relationships. Some clients seek documented evidence to support their intentions to file for divorce or child custody proceedings. Others, however, prioritize peace of mind. These individuals may have been married for an extended period and still harbor affection for their spouse. Deep down, they believe that confronting their partner with this evidence could potentially facilitate the resolution of underlying issues and salvage the marriage. Nevertheless, the primary objective of most clients is to obtain the truth and move forward with their lives.

A typical client inquiry begins with an initial discussion regarding the reasons behind their suspicion of infidelity. Common concerns include their spouse’s secretive behavior regarding their cell phone, sudden changes in their demeanor, and irregular work schedules. While these observations may serve as potential indicators of a shift in lifestyle, they alone do not constitute conclusive proof of infidelity.

Below are specific activities that may, and I emphasize may, suggest the possibility of infidelity:

• Sudden alterations in behavior or schedule, such as leaving at unusual times or more frequently without prior notice.

• The presence of an odor of cologne or perfume on the spouse.

• A sudden change in appearance or grooming standards.

• A sudden interest in physical fitness.

• Disinterest in sexual intimacy with the client.

• A request for sexual activity that deviates from the norm.

• Excessive activity on social media or texting, including the acquisition of new female or male “friends.”

• Secrecy regarding the cell phone, such as refusing to share passwords.

• Unusual applications on the cell phone, commonly downloaded to conceal other information.

• Evidence of infidelity on the cell phone or computer, including text messages, emails, or explicit photographs.

• Unusual phone numbers on the cell phone statement.

• Overcompensating behavior, such as excessive compliments, gifts, or attention, which may serve as a distraction from unfaithful behavior.

• Evidence of online dating activities.

Investigation Strategies for Suspected Infidelity

To effectively investigate potential infidelity, consider the following evidence-gathering methods:

* Witness Accounts: Collect testimonies from individuals who have observed your spouse engaging in inappropriate behavior with another person.

* Locate birth control devices or other contraceptive methods within your spouse’s possession.

* Unusual Transactions: Monitor credit or ATM card activity for suspicious charges or excessive cash withdrawals.

* Digital Footprint: Investigate your spouse’s digital activities, including deleting browsing history and deleting files after using their cell phone or computer.

Surveillance of the suspected spouse is often necessary for these investigations. Providing specific time frames when you believe the activity may be occurring can significantly enhance the investigator’s ability to gather evidence and reduce the overall cost of the investigation. However, it is important to note that surveillance may not always be feasible.

Before contacting an investigator, thoroughly document any evidence you have already collected. Additionally, be prepared to provide the investigator with comprehensive personal information about your spouse, including their physical description, social circle, vehicles, employment history, habits, and weekly schedule. This information will enable the investigator to narrow down a potential time frame, increasing the likelihood of obtaining the evidence you seek.